Ever wondered why friends backstab, lie and cheat on each other but somehow they patch things up and become friends again only for them to backstab, lie and cheat again...to patch things up and be friends again?Ever wondered why a woman will be with an abusive husband (or vice versa) and keep taking him (her) back everytime he (she) apologises?
Why does a woman stay with a cheating, lying man who she knows will never ever be faithful to her? Why does she not just cut her losses and kick him to the curb?
I think it's a little thing called "autophobia": the fear of being alone. it's a little in-built fear that most humans have in them. As a result, most people have a propensity to hold on to whatever relationships they may form, no matter how unfulfilling. Most people would rather remain in a bad relationship, marriage or friendship because they'd rather put up with the drama than be alone. Most people like the title and sense of security attached to relationships, not the relationship itself. People like being able to say, "I'm married" or "I am in a relationship", even if they KNOW they are not happy.
Friendship is usually the basis of any relationship, which is why it is very important to choose your friends very carefully: "bad friends corrupt good morals".
Every now and then, we need to assess our friendships and relationships and TRIM OFF THE EXCESS FAT weighing us down.
Don’t despair when certain people are pruned from your life, NOT EVERYONE'S MEANT TO MAKE IT TO YOUR FUTURE.
Accept it.
Some people are meant to be in our lives just to take us to the gate and leave us there, some will walk inside the gate with us, others will fall by the wayside and some will be there right till the end.
You need certain people in your life during the different seasons you go through in your life. But as you advance to the next level, you may not need some people as much, especially if they weigh you down and dissuade you from your purpose.
Birds of a feather flock together. You can always tell who someone really is by the company they keep. What do YOUR friends say about YOU? Eagles don’t hang around chickens: chickens don’t fly.
If you are always surrounding yourself with with same level minded people, how are you going to advance to the next level?
toxic! yeah, reminds me of the time the Israelites were complainin' and they told Mo' they want to go back to Egypt, why? cause for 1 it was a place of comfort, knowing that even though they would get beat, at least their days were predictable. On the other hand trusting in Jesus is not always comfortable....but still like you said..somet' better will come along! *Nyario*
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Like my good friend Dennis Sauke recently said:
ReplyDelete"Don't waste another moment with people that don't sharpen you. Make sure your inner circle consists of people that understand your destiny. People that celebrate your uniqueness. Not everyone can go where God is taking you!"
This is so true and I agree with *Nyario*, it's best to realise that some will come along and not all.. Keep writing girl.. You are truly blessed and keep preaching the word darll..xx.. Stay blessed!!
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