Take your timeGood things should be worth the wait. Take your time to get to know each other. A lot of failed relationships could have been avoided had people actually taken time to get to know each other to see if they are well suited for each other. Never rush into something because of pressure. If someone isn’t willing to be patient while getting to know you, rather walk away. Rushing or seeming to be in a hurry, usually shows that the person isn’t really concerned about getting to know YOU, but rather about what they can GET FROM YOU.
TRUST
One of the most important elements of a successful relationship is TRUST. A relationship with no trust is bound to end in disaster. Although you can never really trust someone 100%, a substantial amount of trust is paramount to the maintenance of a healthy relationship. It’s impossible (and unhealthy) to be with your partner every minute of everyday, 365 days a year, so when you are apart you shouldn’t have to wonder what they are doing and with who.
GOD CORE
A God-centredness is so important. GOD should be the core of the relatoionship.You need to be in His will and be submitted to His plan for your relationship. It’s so easy to be led by the flesh and to abandon His desire for you but the Bible warns us against being led by the flesh in Galatians 5:17: “For what out human nature wants is opposed to what the Spirit wants, and what the Spirit wants is opposed to what our human nature wants. These two are enemies and this means you cannot do whatever you want to do.” A God centre isn’t just about being based on a love for God, but also on doing what is pleasing to Him, and that includes conquering the flesh and not giving in to temptation
Shared values
It’s so important to believe in the same things especially spiritually and in your core values. I’ve heard people say opposites attract but when it comes to beliefs and values opposites should repel. It’s very difficult to reach a compromise when it comes to conflicting beliefs. When two people with polar opposite beliefs and values come together, something’s gotta give. One person or the other will have to compromise in order for the relationship to continue.Love
Notice, LOVE, not lust. A love based on 1 Corinthians 13:1-13.
I get worried when people talk about "love at first sight". Mainly because that initial “spark” between two people is based on what they see and are initially physically attracted and generally not a true genuine love. There is a distinct difference between infatuation and love. And an even more important difference between love and lust. I believe true love grows and develops through getting to know each other and accepting each other flaws and all. I’m not disputing the fact that there can be an immediate connection between two people, but mistaking that for love is a big mistake.
Yes I agree. I actually have a post about the difference between love and infatuation. It's called "Relationship Checklist part 1."
ReplyDeleteI actually have friends who are now married that first spent at least 19hrs a day together! Seems like from their experience spending plenty of time together works out. On the other hand I also have a friend who is still in the relationship but ensure that they see each other once ever two days or so.
Thinking about it, the idea of spending a lot of time together depends on the partners. Works for some and not for others.
yea, so true. I was talking to a friend today and I was telling her that relationships really don't have a rubric or formula. they're all unique and what works for one couple doesn't always work for another couple. But in reality most couple aren't able to be with each other every single moment so trust is SUPER important.
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Take your time! Take your time! Take your time! When you (both) serve the Author of time, my word, ugh...I dont know what words can describe what I'm trying to say. When you (both) put God first the unbreakable, unimaginable synergy that will exist between you, the man plus God .... Yoh!
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lol! I actually catch your drift Nyasha!
ReplyDeleteI love this: "When you (both) put God first the unbreakable, unimaginable synergy that will exist between you, the man plus God"
It reminds me of the P4CM "I'll wait for you" Poem http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=igCj3jsbcqs
One analogy that i have about relationships, is the Earth. You have the core, which is a fury furnace and you have the outer core. Most Volcanoes erupt only when the magma gets hot. It erupts as a volcano and turns to lava, which wen cooled becomes a basalt- which changes the appearance of the Earth.
ReplyDeleteAnd that hws we-our relationships shud be.. if the center is the Consuming fire, Ur outer appearance will never be the same becz God will change you!
wow Lubi... that's so deep~ #foodforthought
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