In Love So Deep

Love unfailing, overtaking my heart. 

I’m always in awe of HIS unfailing, unending, unwavering LOVE. Even in the midst of my imperfection, He still loves me. I’m amazed at Him, My God, who with 6,999,999 other people in the world to think about still sees me as the apple of His eye, His priced possession. He knows everything about and that concerns me. Every single hair on my head is counted. Every pain, affliction, joy and success in my life He is aware of. 

I am in awestruck at how He stands majestically in the heavens, more powerful than any of the Kings and rulers that have ever lived, yet I don’t need to make an appointment to speak to Him.

How deep is His love? As deep as the deepest ocean.as deep as my wildest dream AND THEN SOME!

As I decrease He increases. As I succeed, more glory and honour befalls His name.The more intimately I get to know Him, the deeper in love I fall. The more I get of Him, the more I want, and desire. 

I cannot fathom how others live like there is no God and question His existence. His existence is so explicit, I am surrounded by so many reminders of His awesomeness. 

Love unfailing has overtaken my heart...I'm in love SO deep.

De-clutter

 Never be afraid of letting go of things in your life that have reached their expiry date. Letting some things go makes space for something new!

Every month, I spring clean my living space. But every  2 or 3 months I do a major, all-out SUPER CLEAN.  I take out all my old boxes, get into the cupboards that haven’t been opened in a while and dig up all  my clothes which I haven’t worn in ages. I’m always amazed at the amount of stuff I accumulate over the months!

I used to have a lot of stuff I'd cling onto because it had “sentimental value”, or ‘just in case I needed it’ -- Clothes I KNEW I’d never wear,  things I knew I’d not use again and so on. But lately whenever I decide to do a major clean I become RUTHLESS with my clutter and anything not used in the past 6 months, and  not likely to be used again gets thrown out or given away! I’m always so happy at the end of my cleaning sprees at how much stuff I am able to get rid of and the amount of free space I create just but letting GO!

Often, we let great things pass us by because our “space” is fully occupied by illegal settlers and things that have passed their expiry date. Whether it's a wrong relationship, a failing friendship or holding onto a past hurt...whatever... holding on to clutter from the past limits your availability for new things. Sometimes we hold on to things with such a tight grip, and clog up our lives, often, holding onto things that really shouldn’t be in our lives. Just as we spring clean our living spaces every now and then, we also need to periodically evaluate and take stock of our lives and highlight the space-occupying non-benficial things in our lives.

Let some things go.You’ll be amazed at the wonderful things you’ll begin to experience because of the space created when you let go!

Relationship 102

Take your time

Good things should be worth the wait. Take your time to get to know each other. A lot of failed relationships could have been avoided had people actually taken time to get to know each other to see if they are well suited for each other. Never rush into something because of pressure. If someone isn’t willing to be patient while getting to know you, rather walk away. Rushing or seeming to be in a hurry, usually shows that the person isn’t really concerned about getting to know YOU, but rather about what they can GET FROM YOU.

TRUST

One of the most important elements of a successful relationship is TRUST. A relationship with no trust is bound to end in disaster. Although you can never really trust someone 100%, a substantial amount of trust is paramount to the maintenance of a healthy relationship. It’s impossible (and unhealthy) to be with your partner every minute of everyday, 365 days a year, so when you are apart you shouldn’t have to wonder what they are doing and with who.

GOD CORE

A God-centredness is so important. GOD should be the core of the relatoionship.You need to be in His will and be submitted to His plan for your relationship. It’s so easy to be led by the flesh and to abandon His desire for you but the Bible warns us against being led by the flesh in Galatians 5:17: “For what out human nature wants is opposed to what the Spirit wants, and what the Spirit wants is opposed to what our human nature wants. These two are enemies and this means you cannot do whatever you want to do.” A God centre isn’t just about being based on a love for God, but also on doing what is pleasing to Him, and that includes conquering the flesh and not giving in to temptation

Shared values

It’s so important to believe in the same things especially spiritually and in your core values. I’ve heard people say opposites attract but when it comes to beliefs and values opposites should repel. It’s very difficult to reach a compromise when it comes to conflicting beliefs. When two people with polar opposite beliefs and values come together, something’s gotta give. One person or the other will have to compromise in order for the relationship to continue.

 

Love

Notice, LOVE, not lust. A love based on 1 Corinthians 13:1-13.

I get  worried when people talk about "love at first sight". Mainly because that initial “spark” between two people is based on what they see and are initially physically attracted and generally  not a true genuine love. There is a distinct difference between infatuation and love. And an even more important difference between love and lust. I believe true love grows and develops through getting to know each other and accepting each other flaws and all. I’m not disputing the fact that there can be an immediate connection between two people, but mistaking that for love is a big mistake.

CHOOSE to succeed

I talk about success being a choice because that's what it is. No doubt, there are adverse circumstances that can stunt your success for a while but at the end of the day, you CHOOSE whether to be a success or not. Each choice you make either leads you in the direction of success or in the direction of failure.

Tip #1
Discipline. That self regulated behaviour where you do the right theing even when others are lavishing in doing the wrong thing. It’s about doing what you are supposed to do WHEN you are supposed to do it.How big is the gap between what you do when everyone’s around and what you do when you’re alone?

Tip #2

Respect –  for everyone around you. From the man who picks up rubbish on the side of the road right up to the wealthy “VIPs”. I’ve found that people almost fall over themselves and overdo it when an important dignitary is around, but those same people mistreat those in lower, “less respectable” positions. I’ve watched people “suck up” to people they stand to gain a lot from. The question is: how do you treat people who you don’t think can do anything for you?

Tip #3

Order. Be orderly. disorder is the mother of confusion and chaos. Be organized. Order increases confidence and aids clarity of thought.

Tip #4

Reliability and dependability. Do what you say you’ll do. Rather under promise and over deliver than over promise and under deliver. I always say “You’re as reliable as your word”.

Tip #5

Relationships – it’s virtually impossible to really be a success without good relationships with people. I don’t think it’s by accident God put us in families, communities, neighbourhoods and so on. EVERYONE potentially has something to contribute to your life, and ultimately your success. Nowadays, it really is about “Who you know”. Get involved, and get connected.

Tip #6

Reputation. How many people have you met someone for the first time and in your head thought: “Oooooh, so this is the --- I’ve heard so much about?” Your reputation is like an answering machine. Even when you aren’t around, it still speaks on our behalf. Work on maintaining a good reputation. Yes, you can’t control what everyone thinks of you, but giving them less negatives to talk about, people will be forced to spread the good stuff about you. Your reputation = free advertising. You’re the brand and people will decide on whether to choose you as a “brand” or not, be it in the job market, as a business person, or even just as a friend.

Relationship 101

Be friends first

I believe a relationship is as strong as its foundation. A good foundation usually leads to a solid structure; a successful relationship. Get to know each other before you jump into the relationship. Forming a relationship without having friendship as a base, is like trying to build a house without a foundation. You may somehow manage to erect the structure of the house, maybe miraculously make it to roof level, but it will collapse sooner or later.

 

State your intentions clearly from the beginning.

Be honest about your objectives. What do you want to get from the relationship? –  "booty call" (God forbid), casual dating or courting (heading towards marriage) and make sure these objectives are the same for both of you.

  

Ceteris Paribus

Ceteris Paribus is a Latin phrase, literally translated as "with other things the same." Although we are all works in progress and somewhat unfinished, it is wrong to go into a relationship expecting the other person to change or hoping they’ll be malleable enough to make them into what you want. Ask yourself… “If this person didn’t change a single thing about themselves, would I still want to be with them?” If that person changes for the better, that’s an obvious bonus but you first have to have accepted them as they are.

  

Set standards and boundaries for the relationship.

Once again, make sure you are on the same page. This point reminds me of a concept in business called “benchmarking”. It involves establishing a standard and comparing future performance to the standard. Blindly entering a relationship with no prior standards or boundaries set up is quite foolish because it means you sort of  “go with the flow” and see where the wind takes you. To prevent regrettable situations and “I wish”es, determine the standards of the relationship before you enter it and from time to time compare “performance” to the standard, and clearly define lines not to be crossed. Adherence to  the standards and boundaries is imperative otherwise they are pointless.

  

Keep your private life private

The mistake many couples make is to publicise their “bi'ness” too much. There’s nothing wrong with sharing your relationship moments  with others but there needs to be SOME privacy in the relationship.

I’ve always found it fascinating how people basically put their relationships online for everyone to see via Facebook and other social networks – sweet nothings back and forth. 100s of photos of each other from 10 different angles and public declarations of love but the moment things turn sour the subliminal statuses, bitter messages and cussing begins. Relationship statuses are changed quickly “because of what people will think” and so on. Really though. A relationship, and a successful one at that needs as few spectators as possible. It should be between 2 people and private moments should as much as possible be exclusive to those two, not the 2 and the rest of the world.